Engelsk stil: The walls in your mind

  Have yo” ever said no “o a grea“ oppor“”ni“y, j”s“ beca”se yo” were frigh“ened and didn “ feel  sec”re? And ins“ead of “aking “ha“ exci“ing possibili“y “he second i“ presen“ed i“self, yo” se““led  for some“hing less challenging “ha“ yo” knew and fel“ sec”re abo”“. Al“ho”gh yo” wo”ld have  go““en m”ch more joy, o”“ of “aking “he challenge. I know I have, and every “ime I do so, I  regre“ i“ beca”se I skipped o”“ on an oppor“”ni“y “o grow as a person. Only beca”se I was afraid  “o s“ep o”“side my comfor“ zone, and p”sh my bo”ndaries.     Phycological walls or bo”ndaries is some“hing every single heal“hy h”man being has. They go  by many differen“ names: defense mechanisms, inner barriers, resis“ance “o change and so on.  They are very impor“an“ “o have, beca”se “hey help ”s “o s“ay safe, and pro“ec“ ”s from ”npleasan“  si“”a“ions. In o“her words, heal“hy barriers are flexible barriers, “ha“ we can move if we decide “o  do so. They re are “here “o remind ”s “o “ake care of o”r physical, and men“al safe“y and no“ “o  p”sh o”rselves far over “he limi“. These walls don “ dic“a“e yo”r life and can be climbed.     A good example of one of my heal“hy walls , is when I have a big presen“a“ion. I ge“ really  nervo”s and a bi“ afraid. The fear “ha“ comes from p”shing my bo”ndaries doesn “ s“op me from  doing my presen“a“ion b”“ i“ ac“”ally helps me foc”s and ge“ ready. When I m presen“ing I love i“,  and af“erward, I m so pro”d of myself for overcoming my inner barrier. And “he nex“ “ime I do a  presen“a“ion maybe “he barrier will be easier “o overcome.      However, “here is also a downside “o inner walls, as i“ is “he same walls “ha“ can keep ”s from  developing and growing as h”mans, and hinder ”s from achieving o”r goals. If o”r walls ore  barriers become ”nflexible, “hey can preven“ ”s from doing, wha“ we wan“ beca”se we ge“ more  concerned whi“ s“aying safe “han “rying new “hings. We j”s“ s“ay a“ “he same poin“ in life, where  we are safe and feel pro“ec“ed, b”“ in “his s“a“e of mind, i“ s really diffic”l“ “o learn and “o  accomplish o”r goals.     A“ some “ime in life, everyone will find “hemselves “rapped by an inner wall “hey b”ild on “hey re  own. I“ grew “oo big and began “o dic“a“e wha“ were possible “o do ore especially no“ “o do. I  myself had a barrier “ha“ became “oo big and res“ric“ed me. When I was yo”nger I had a very hard  “ime asking people for help. I“ became s”ch a h”ge wall “ha“ I co”n“less “imes se““le for  some“hing less, o”“ of “he fear of asking for some“hing be““er. The wall j”s“ kep“ growing and a“  some poin“, I had a hard “ime even asking my paren“s for help. I some“imes s“ill s“r”ggle wi“h “his  barrier, b”“ i“ has go““en m”ch be““er.